Marriage Counselling / Couples Counselling

What is marriage/couples counselling?

Marriage counselling, also called couples counselling/therapy helps couples (married or not) to understand and resolve conflicts and improve their relationship. Couples counselling gives couples the tools to communicate better, negotiate differences, problem solve and even argue in a healthier way.

At HUM, we begin all of our services with a comprehensive assessment to identify the client’s needs.  If you or your partner has undergone the assessment process, marriage/couples counselling is an option for you as needed.

At HUM we use a psychotherapeutic approach for counselling.  Psychotherapy is a general term referring to therapeutic interaction or treatment between a trained professional and a client, patient, family, couple, or group.  The problems addressed vary in nature and degree.  Psychotherapy services at HUM are provided by our integrated health team that includes registered psychologists, registered social workers and physicians. Our psychotherapeutic approach draws from a variety of models and incorporates aspects of Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, Rational Emotive Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, and Family Systems Therapy.

Marriage counselling is often short term. You may need only a few sessions to help you weather a crisis. Or you may need marriage counselling for several months, particularly if your relationship has greatly deteriorated. As with individual psychotherapy, the schedule of your appointments will be determined based on your needs.

What are the benefits of marriage/couples counselling?

Relationships can be challenging.  Each person brings his or her own ideas, values, opinions and personal history into a relationship, and they don’t always match their partner’s.  Sometimes specific issues, such as an extramarital affair or loss of sexual attraction, trigger problems in a relationship. Other times, there’s a gradual disintegration of communication and caring.

No matter the cause, distress in a relationship can create undue stress, tension, sadness, worry, fear and other problems. You may hope your relationship troubles just go away on their own. But left to fester, a bad relationship may only worsen and eventually lead to physical or mental health problems, such as depression. A bad relationship can also create problems on the job and affect other family members or even friendships as people feel compelled to take sides.

Here are typical issues that marriage counselling can help you and a spouse or partner cope with:

  • Infidelity
  • Divorce
  • Substance abuse
  • Addiction
  • Physical or mental health conditions
  • Same-sex relationship issues
  • Cultural clashes
  • Finances
  • Unemployment
  • Blended families
  • Communication problems
  • Sexual difficulties
  • Conflicts about child rearing
  • Infertility
  • Anger
  • Changing roles, such as retirement