Gifts

Gifts
This is your message for the week of October 8, 2017 

 

With Canadian Thanksgiving upon us, it is a reminder to pause and explore gratitude and thanks for what we have in our lives. This includes the gifts that are all around us. In this video we explore what that means, where these gifts come from, and what they can mean for your recovery.
These messages are developed by Paige Abbott, Registered Psychologist and Clinical Services Director at HUM

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Gambling


Gambling
This is your message for the week of October 1, 2017 

 

Addiction is a primary, chronic brain disease and, therefore, impacts all aspects of thinking, feeling, and behaviour. Recovery is learning about how the disease impacts these areas and working with that, while developing different ways of being and coping. In this message Paige explores a specific manifestation of Addiction: gambling. Even if you think this does not apply to you, it is still worth exploring because you may be surprised. This is, after all, a cunning, baffling, and powerful disease.
These messages are developed by Paige Abbott, Registered Psychologist and Clinical Services Director at HUM

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Coincidences

Coincidences
This is your message for the week of September 24, 2017 

 

Look around you in your day to day life and think of all the ‘random’ (but maybe not so random) things that have happened that impact you. What do you make of this? What meaning do you find in these coincidences? Paige shares her perspective on this.
These messages are developed by Paige Abbott, Registered Psychologist and Clinical Services Director at HUM

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On Judgment

On Judgment
By Paige Abbott, Registered Psychologist
How come it is so easy to point the finger to what other people are doing ‘wrong’, strangely, or unhealthily? It is particularly easy for the disease of Addiction to get trapped in judgment of others and focus on their perceived flaws and shortcomings. Judgment comes with an emotional reaction, usually something like anger, resentment, annoyance, or irritation. At least on the surface. Under the surface, what is really connected to judgment is fear and shame. Fear that perhaps we are like that, have done that, or could be like that. Shame is what this says about us as people.
Many people in recovery find group therapy and 12-Step meetings particularly challenging for this reason. Their disease wants to pull them into reactivity towards others, when the challenge and opportunity is to turn the mirror back to yourself and look at the lessons. When you find yourself reacting and being in judgment of someone else, I would encourage you to ask:
– What does this reaction tell me about myself?
– What parts of them do I see in myself?
– How does this feel?
If we were completely comfortable and centred within ourselves, there would not be judgment or reaction to others as we would be able to see that is them, and that is their issue. The reaction comes because we are seeing something that triggers our own insecurities. The disease will want you to continue focusing on them, “if only they would change…” but the opportunity is to look at “what would I like to change?”
Letting go of judgment and looking within are the keys to empathy, compassion, and understanding which are cornerstones of recovery.
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New Glasses

New Glasses 
This is your message for the week of September 17, 2017 

 

Yes, this message is about my new eyeglasses. Well, not really, but kind of.
It is important to look for analogies, metaphors, and meaning all around us; that is what I am doing here. So have a watch and you might be surprised how my new glasses are directly relevant to your recovery and process of change (just not literally).
These messages are developed by Paige Abbott, Registered Psychologist and Clinical Services Director at HUM

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