Dropping the Rope

Dropping The Rope

By Paige Abbott
Registered Psychologist
Addiction can feel like there is a tug of war happening in the brain. On one side you have rationalizations, justifications, distorted thinking, and bizarre ideas that may seem appealing, rational and true. This is the disease. On the other side you have the ability to connect with self and reality; experience gratitude, peace, happiness, as well as sadness, humility, disappointment, and all other feelings with openness. The side of self is desirable, especially as people start to engage in recovery and get a glimpse of how this side of the rope feels. This can lead to wanting to tug harder, fight more, yell at the other side in the hopes that it will be quiet, give up, and, ultimately, just go away.

As you tug more and fight harder, no matter how much strength you have on your side (the self side), the disease strength will increase. Addiction is not a disease that just gives up or walks away. It is a chronic disease and it is rooted in the reward circuitry of the brain, which is very core and primal. It cannot be extracted or removed. The more you fight, the more the disease will fight back. Many describe the recovery process as a “battle.” If you view it this way, you will never “win” because as soon as you engage in the “battle”, you are engaging with the disease. You are playing a perpetual game of tug of war and, eventually, your muscles will fatigue. Others come to recognize that recovery is a journey, a process, and embark on it with a peaceful approach. They walk their path, accepting and acknowledging that the disease is around making noise, but recognize they do not need to engage in fighting the disease in any way.

Here are a few questions for your reflection and journaling:

How are you still engaged in a “tug of war” with your disease? Where are you still fighting and not willing to give up control of?

How can you acknowledge and surrender to your Addiction?

How has hanging onto control and fighting served you in recovery? How has it hurt you?

What would happen if you just let go of the rope?

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Addiction Involving Sex


Addiction Involving Sex 
This is your message for the week of June 18, 2017 
This message explores some core questions to evaluate for yourself in the realm of sex to see where or if Addiction issues may be. In the media there is debate about whether Addiction involving sex is a “real” part of the disease which is also addressed in this video. Addiction involving sex is a very real, and core part, of the disease that everyone needs to explore.

These messages are developed by Paige Abbott, Registered Psychologist and Clinical Services Director at HUM

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Addiction is a Disease!


Addiction is a Disease  
This is your message for the week of June 11, 2017 
There are still many that view Addiction as a “choice” or “personal weakness” despite medical evidence to show that it is rooted in the brain (specifically the reward circuitry). This perspective is still rampant in medical circles as well as in the general public. Advocacy is a person by person, moment by moment process and everyone can do their part. We explore both of these topics this week.

These messages are developed by Paige Abbott, Registered Psychologist and Clinical Services Director at HUM

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Thinking vs. Feeling

Thinking vs. Feeling 
This is your message for the week of June 4, 2017 
Addiction is a primary, chronic disease impacting the brain. Therefore, it can play many tricks within the brain and influence all aspects of the person, including thinking and feeling. The disease is also about escape, reward, and relief, including from feelings. An important part of recovery is to feel the feelings, rather than think about them or try to understand them. We explore this topic further in this week’s message.

These messages are developed by Paige Abbott, Registered Psychologist and Clinical Services Director at HUM

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Acceptance


Acceptance 
This is your message for the week of May 28, 2017 
In our May 2017 newsletter, Dr. Hajela wrote an article on the topic of forgiveness. In this article he mentioned how acceptance is key, rather than seeking absolution or forgetting about what has happened altogether. I explore the topic of acceptance more in this weekly recovery message.
These messages are developed by Paige Abbott, Registered Psychologist and Clinical Services Director at HUM

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